1. Oil does not leak from the bearings (pressure lubrication)
2. The engine is hot (the greatest wear on the engine occurs during a cold start)
3. ECO is a function involving approximately 8 ECUs, which, like on a space station, monitor the state of on-board systems.
4. The starter is structurally VERY reliable and durable.
5. The ECU remembers the position of the shafts (crankshaft and camshafts) relative to TDC and during a “hot start” it injects fuel into the corresponding cylinder; the starter itself actually only helps a little to turn the engine. That is, the start is made by injection and not by the starter.
Notice how quickly modern engines start in ECO mode.
In short, all the talk about the harm of ECO-START is empty chatter. Over time, people will get used to it and all questions will naturally become a thing of the past.